Have you ever wondered why some areas of your life work so well and others don’t? Most likely it has to do with the day-to-day choices you’re making. Yet you might not even realize you often react—just to avoid discomfort rather than responding thoughtfully to what’s in your best interest long term.
You might be wondering, why then would you do something that isn’t in your own best interest? Well, biologically, your brain is wired to seek pleasure and avoid pain. But once you understand a simple,
Have you ever hesitated to have a conversation with someone because you doubted if it was the right time? Or because you weren’t sure if your concern was legitimate enough? I received a question about this everyday dilemma from a woman in Chicago. And I knew it was time to share a few quick and easy tools that ensure confidence when it’s time to say, “Can we talk?” If you’ve ever experienced this awkward moment of self doubt, make sure you set yourself up for success—every time—by watching this video.
Chai (tea) was a staple growing up in our Indian household. We had chai when a neighbor stopped by to say hi. When I needed a break from studying or work, the answer was chai. Experiencing a three o’clock energy dip? …must be time for chai. After dinner… you got it – chai-time. I don’t recall my parents or their friends ever saying it was too late for chai or that they had had enough chai that day. Anytime was chai-time.
Almost every morning for 48 years, my dad has made bed tea for my mom and any of us lucky enough to be home.
Do You Have Decision-Fatigue?
You know, when you waffle over making decisions that should be simpler than they feel.
You make dozens of decisions every day ranging from simple ones (what to wear in the morning or what to eat) to more complex ones (whether you’ve outgrown a relationship or a job description).
Sure, there are areas of your life where you feel confident. And at other times, you find yourself stuck in a figure eight loop of uncertainty. Have you missed key opportunities because you couldn’t make up your mind?
Who’s the best listener in your life? You know, that person who just gets you. Don’t you wish you could clone him or her?
Yet other times, you might feel like a broken record, repeating the same message over and over—to people who seem tuned out. And no matter how important your topic or how persuasive you try to be, it doesn’t seem to get through. Bill, an experienced surgeon and hospital administrator, knows what that’s all about. Usually, he’s the one in control with everyone listening to him. He can fix just about anything—during surgery.
Do you know someone who enters conversations with their dukes up? Maybe it’s a colleague or boss at work. Or maybe it’s someone around the dinner table or at family gatherings. You know, the person you wish would just relax, take a chill pill, and stop arguing and interrupting. You’ve probably done everything humanly possible to change the outcome—to no avail.
When does defensiveness show up in your world? It’s that moment when you hit an emotional landmine. The topic might be who’s going to do the dishes, the latest political drama or even the status of your relationship.
How many times have you tuned out the safety instructions blaring over the loudspeaker on an airplane? I bet you could recite them verbatim. The flight attendant calls for everyone’s attention. You know the drill … let’s fast forward to this part: “In the unlikely event that the cabin pressure should drop, oxygen masks will drop from above your seat. Please put your mask on first before assisting others….” How often do you rush to save someone else in lieu of taking care of yourself? Probably as often as you tune out the messages over the loudspeaker.
Have you ever wondered how to navigate uncomfortable conversations? You know, that moment when everything goes radio-silent and gets aawwwk-ward. Usually, it’s when someone has a serious concern or wants to bring up something near and dear to their heart. If this type of interaction isn’t in your comfort zone, watch out, because your body will start talking—loudly.
Shaan, the CEO of a San Francisco startup, is worried that when he encounters an emotional elephant in the room, he may come across as inauthentic. Watch this brave entrepreneur use his body and mind to get to the bottom of his dilemma.
FINAL SALE. A new owner on the deed. And that makes me just one of the many travelers over the last 119 years who have called this plot of land their home.
This change has forced the completion of every last errand, every decision not yet made and prioritized the reconnection of relationships that had fallen by the wayside. No wonder buying or selling a house is one of life’s major transitions.
Giving up the four walls of this Victorian home that have provided me a quiet, protected and
peaceful place in the world and deciding what to keep or let go of has me feeling raw and
We love our stuff! And when it no longer fits in our garage or basement, we rent out a climate-controlled space to keep it in. Rather than letting go of what we no longer need, we would rather pay a monthly fee to store our extra belongings “in case we need them.” The Self-Storage Association reports that the space available in this country for self-storage is approximately three times the size of Manhattan. This concept doesn’t just apply to our material possessions. We desperately hold onto other stuff as well…whether it’s relationships, jobs, or our youth. Often,