This week we’re going to work on something called Choosing Your Communication Method Wisely. The reason I chose this is because so many people have asked me questions like, “Did I do this wrong? Did I communicate with somebody in the wrong way? Is that what caused a problem?” What they’re talking about is the method in which they communicated. “Should I not have emailed? Should I have texted instead? Or shown up in person?” Good questions!
Have you ever felt stressed or overwhelmed—and then become completely annoyed when somebody chimed in with, “Hey, just take a deep breath.” Today, you’re going to learn about a very underused yet extremely powerful tool called soft-belly breathing. I didn’t learn about this in medical school. In medical school I learned about the science of the body and of the lungs, but I learned on a practical level how I could use soft-belly breathing to decrease my stress levels in my everyday life.
When you were young, what did you want to be when you grew up? At various points, I remember wanting to be a ballerina, a tennis player and eventually a doctor. The most memorable answer I’ve heard was from a 5-year-old girl who boldly declared she was going to be a teacher, a scientist or a butterfly. She hadn’t quite decided yet. When you let your imagination run wild, what do you dream of?
Today, I’m proud to share with you one of my dreams-come-true—and how the lessons I’ve learned can help you!
Have you ever wondered why some areas of your life work so well and others don’t? Most likely it has to do with the day-to-day choices you’re making. Yet you might not even realize you often react—just to avoid discomfort rather than responding thoughtfully to what’s in your best interest long term.
You might be wondering, why then would you do something that isn’t in your own best interest? Well, biologically, your brain is wired to seek pleasure and avoid pain. But once you understand a simple,
Have you ever hesitated to have a conversation with someone because you doubted if it was the right time? Or because you weren’t sure if your concern was legitimate enough? I received a question about this everyday dilemma from a woman in Chicago. And I knew it was time to share a few quick and easy tools that ensure confidence when it’s time to say, “Can we talk?” If you’ve ever experienced this awkward moment of self doubt, make sure you set yourself up for success—every time—by watching this video.
Chai (tea) was a staple growing up in our Indian household. We had chai when a neighbor stopped by to say hi. When I needed a break from studying or work, the answer was chai. Experiencing a three o’clock energy dip? …must be time for chai. After dinner… you got it – chai-time. I don’t recall my parents or their friends ever saying it was too late for chai or that they had had enough chai that day. Anytime was chai-time.
Almost every morning for 48 years, my dad has made bed tea for my mom and any of us lucky enough to be home.
Do You Have Decision-Fatigue?
You know, when you waffle over making decisions that should be simpler than they feel.
You make dozens of decisions every day ranging from simple ones (what to wear in the morning or what to eat) to more complex ones (whether you’ve outgrown a relationship or a job description).
Sure, there are areas of your life where you feel confident. And at other times, you find yourself stuck in a figure eight loop of uncertainty. Have you missed key opportunities because you couldn’t make up your mind?
Who’s the best listener in your life? You know, that person who just gets you. Don’t you wish you could clone him or her?
Yet other times, you might feel like a broken record, repeating the same message over and over—to people who seem tuned out. And no matter how important your topic or how persuasive you try to be, it doesn’t seem to get through. Bill, an experienced surgeon and hospital administrator, knows what that’s all about. Usually, he’s the one in control with everyone listening to him. He can fix just about anything—during surgery.
Do you know someone who enters conversations with their dukes up? Maybe it’s a colleague or boss at work. Or maybe it’s someone around the dinner table or at family gatherings. You know, the person you wish would just relax, take a chill pill, and stop arguing and interrupting. You’ve probably done everything humanly possible to change the outcome—to no avail.
When does defensiveness show up in your world? It’s that moment when you hit an emotional landmine. The topic might be who’s going to do the dishes, the latest political drama or even the status of your relationship.
How many times have you tuned out the safety instructions blaring over the loudspeaker on an airplane? I bet you could recite them verbatim. The flight attendant calls for everyone’s attention. You know the drill … let’s fast forward to this part: “In the unlikely event that the cabin pressure should drop, oxygen masks will drop from above your seat. Please put your mask on first before assisting others….” How often do you rush to save someone else in lieu of taking care of yourself? Probably as often as you tune out the messages over the loudspeaker.